The Aftermath

Some of you are just emerging from the loginess of Turkey Day. The way I do it when I host, which I did for a small group this year, is I clean up a whole bunch after the guests leave. Really I do most of it and leave the stubborn pots to soak in the sink. I run the dishwasher. Then, the next day, I do absolutely nothing. I chill out. I go to bed early and the next morning I clean up the rest of the mess. You probably can’t do this if you have a spouse because it will make them crazy to have a sink full of dishes but it works for me and it might work for you.

I have to say, it’s pretty funny when you’re sitting around on Thanksgiving evening and your sons are saying I need a such and such and the other is saying I’m going out to buy a (fill in the blank) and meanwhile you have those things neatly tucked away for the big day. I mean sometimes it’s amusing. Sometimes it means you’ll be making a trip to the UPS store.

Thought for the day:74339_10152159207220937_563155442_n

If I go out on Black Friday and the rest of the weekend is I go only to stores that have dedicated parking lots. No malls, parking garages for this gal. I like knowing I can escape quickly if the store is too crazy. I know, I’m getting pretty particular about things as time goes on. But I remain convinced that the best way to deal with the Christmas shopping frenzy is to stay home and lie on the sofa with a good book.

Here are a few: Tightrope by Simon Mawer and another of his: Trapeze  I am Pilgrim by Terry Hayes (long but stick with it); All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr. I may have mentioned this one before. It’s a great one; I learned a lot from it.

The coming season:




Shop from your seat

It’s almost Christmas time which is really a lovely time of year. I love the outdoor lights people put up and I love all of the greenery. But you won’t be able to fully appreciate the season until you’ve tackled the shopping.

As far as food goes, I recommend having your groceries delivered. For Thanksgiving I put in an order to Peapod (Stop ‘n’ Shop) and had all of my groceries delivered this past Sunday. Talk about hassle-free. I am planning on doing the same for Christmas and I was clever enough to order my baking supplies with the Thanksgiving order so I am ready-set-go for cookie making.

As far as finding presents for people on your list you can shop from your seat. Get out your credit card and type in and double click. You can do amazing searches (wooden baby toys made in the USA), (Well, I know that’s not that amazing.) You won’t have to leave the house and can have free shipping on everything if you’re an Amazon Prime member. (Worth looking into.) You could probably live comfortably for a year with all of the stuff they have on their site and no, this is not an ad for Amazon. So you’ll definitely be able to find something great for everyone on your list.

If you’re like me and hand make a lot of your presents you are pretty much in a ditch if you didn’t start thinking of what to make back in July. So, if you want handmade go for cookies or a small do-it-yourself craft.

As well, you can stay sitting on the sofa while you send out Christmas cards. Lots of people still use real cards but I quite like Paperless Post for sending e-cards.

I myself am looking forward to getting my Christmas tree. These past few months I have been decorating artificial trees for various charities and am definitely sick of fake anything. My tree will be beautiful and I’ll show you a picture when it’s up. In the meantime here is one that caught my eye.


Have a great Thanksgiving. If you have time to lay on the sofa and read (which I highly recommend for Black Friday) here are some good books:

The Nightingale by Kristen Hannah (This blog won’t let me underline. Don’t know why but they have finally allowed one to justify the margins which makes for a neater post)

Ordinary Thunderstorms: a Novel by William Boyd is quite good.

I’m back, just as you were thinking I’d gone missing.

Here’s what I would like to have at my fingertips wherever I find myself: a nail file, lipstick and Kiehl’s lotion. One could have three or four of each in three or four places. Not a lot to ask for but it never seems to work out.

So, say you, what have I been up to lately? Well, recently I’ve been decorating trees for a Make-A-Wish fair at the Cos Cob Fire House December 12th. Low key, down-to-earth. We won’t make a ton of money but the object is to get the word out, to increase awareness of this fine charity. It is really buttoned up and organized which is the type of place I like to work with; no loose strings anywhere.

60% of Make-A-Wish children choose to go to Disney World. One girl wanted to be a princess so her sponsor organized a tea party with dress up stuff, etc.One boy wanted to be a cop and they really made it super fun.  Very cute. I will say I have always thought why do something special for someone so close to the end of their life? I know, it sounds harsh but that was how I thought of it. Apparently I am not alone. It is a misconception held by many. The trips involve the whole family and they create memories to hold on to forever. And in more and more cases, the children are surviving and can share in those memories as well.

They’ve had their annual benefit and raised a lot of money. Our little gig is just to bring the message down to the grass roots. They will have another major benefit in the Spring so we are gearing up for that.

The backdrop to all of this is that I have to have a fairly quiet life as I have been besieged with asthma. You could wonder why there isn’t en0ugh medicine out there to make me feel better but I guess there isn’t.

Counting many blessings: Younger son back from London (!!!!) where he became quite sick of grey skies. Since he’s been home there have been lots of days with bright blue skies, happy to report.

Older son getting ready to kick it in the commercial real estate business in Brooklyn. Actually in Bushwick as that is the new hot spot. It will eventually end up looking like Williamsburg which is a good thing unless you’re one of the people who won’t be able to afford to live there anymore.

Mom and siblings doing well. What more can you ask for?


I pray to God that one fine day WordPress will give us bloggers the options to justify the margins. That way the post comes out nice and neat. Again, not a lot to ask for.